Well I was right, stupid me for telling her I was out of visa debt, because it came back to haunt me this morning when she throw it back in my face. And when I told her I was working hard to get out of her hair since she clearly felt I was a ball and chain around her neck she was silent. Silence from her is the most telling of answers.
Last November she made a promise to me that if I could save $2,000 she would double the amount for a car. Well I hit that by December and she has never come through with her promise. When I told her I had hit the target her response to me was she didn’t have the money”. She said “I’ll just have to continue to drive you to work until you can save more.” I wasn’t happy about it since I would have preferred she just not make the promise but I didn’t say anything. That January in the Boxing Day sales she went out and put a large flat screen TV on her credit car because it “had the lowest limit and was a small one.” Don’t ask me to justify / explain the reasoning, because I truly can’t. The irony to the whole thing is that she doesn’t like going to watch TV on it because it’s in the basement and the basement is cold and cluttered. Even more illogical was yesterday listening to her talk bout going to IKEA to buy bookcases to “change the way we have it done in the basement.” In the car today I didn’t mention anything about the bookcases; instead I told her if she was feeling so poor she should cut cable, or sell 1 of her 3 homes. She lashed out at me over cable and said “why should I compromise my life style!!”
Look the point if this little rant is not to say I have better money skills than my mom, though I think, she thinks, I think that way (did you follow that?). The point really is to say thank you!!! You have become my financial family. It’s becoming more and more clear that I can’t talk to my own family about this stuff; since I seam to get such hostility. I know my mom resents me with streaks of jealousy, she’ll never come out and say it; her behaviour is more telling than her words.
Thank you so much for cheering me along in this process of being debt free ASAP!!!